Life Choices

Each of us has two distinct choices to make about what we will do with our lives.

The first choice we can make is to be less than we have the capacity to be. To earn less. To have less. To read less and think less. To try less and discipline ourselves less. These are the choices that lead to an empty life. These are the choices that, once made, lead to a life of constant apprehension instead of a life of wondrous anticipation.

And the second choice? To do it all! To become all that we can possibly be. To read every book that we possibly can. To earn as much as we possibly can. To give and share as much as we possibly can. To strive and produce and accomplish as much as we possibly can. All of us have the choice.
To do or not to do. To be or not to be. To be all or to be less or to be nothing at all.

Our ultimate life objective should be to create as much as our talent and ability and desire will permit. To settle for doing less than we could do is to fail in this worthiest of undertakings. The greatest rewards are always reserved for those who bring great value to themselves and the world around them as a result of whom and what they have become.

Impact on Others

Early in our careers, we tend to be concerned with success, personal development and self-advancement. We think about what others can do for us. We spend the bulk of our time trying to get other people interested in our ideas and abilities. To this end, we trumpet our accomplishments and show off our knowledge. In short, they try to win others over by being impressive...(all because they were (are) leaders in the making).

As I mature into the art of leadership, I have began to understand that we will only go farther by focusing first on the advancement of others. Instead of trying to impress others, we should search for ways to show how we are impressed by others.

One of the best ways to demonstrate that you are looking out for the interests of your colleagues, teammates and subordinates is to do something for them that they cannot do for themselves.

Ratio - 20:60:20

I believe you've heard and read about pareto 80:20 principle. Today, there are variants of the principle such as 70:20:10 and mine: 20:60:20.

There are the top 20%, they are the great performers. You have the bottom 20%, these people are looking for a free ride. Then, you have the middle 60%.

Here is what the problem, leaders and managers spend their time trying to motivate, inspire and correct the problems of the bottom 20%. They drain all their energy and income trying to make them better, they are not going to get better, they don’t want to get better. You may need to be let go of these people...

The top 20%, stay out of their way! These people are the best! They will do their job because that is the kind of people they are. If you didn’t show up, they would still do their job. If you weren’t there and didn’t tell them what to do, they would figure out what to do.

The middle 60%, that is the job of a real leader in my opinion. Here is what you have to understand about the 60%, the minute you dump your bottom 20% you will have a good portion of the 60% who cannot wait to drop down into that category. That’s right. They are just looking for room. You will create a vacuum and they will immediately go down there. Now, understand this about the top 20%, they are going to leave you eventually. They are always looking for bigger and better opportunities, they will leave and there is nothing you can do about it. But, a portion of the middle 60% can’t wait for the people at the top to leave and make room for them---they are ready to step up. Your job as a leader is to set that vision, challenge, scare, motivate and inspire them with the strength of your conviction.

Leaders have to understand the middle 60%, they can go either way and it’s the leaders job to constantly give them the opportunity to go either way, out the door or up the ladder.

Gaps of Life

There is a simple principle of personal development which is in consonance with momentum. There’s a gap between where we stand, and where we’re trying to go. To be successful on our journey of life, we have to be aware of this space and prudent when crossing it. We have to mind the gaps of growth. Some of the gaps we experience in life are:

The Assumption Gap: Assuming Growth Is Automatic. Growth doesn’t just happen. Most people expect to grow naturally, as if by osmosis they can somehow magically absorb the lessons of life.

The Knowledge Gap: Not Knowing How to Grow. The average person spends more time planning their vacation than their personal growth. They want others to invest in them, but they’re unwilling to put their own time, money, and reputation on the line in order to better their lives.

The Timing Gap: Sensing the Time Isn’t Right to Begin. Lots of people embrace a philosophy that’s pro-life and procrastination. They want to live it up today so they delay doing anything requiring diligent effort and hard work. However, the longer you wait to do something you should do now the greater the odds that you will never do it.

The Mistake Gap: Fearing Failure. Whenever we dare to try anything great, we’re going to fail somewhere along the way. You’re guaranteed to mess up from time to time as a leader. Avoiding mistakes doesn’t bring success; it keeps you trapped at your current level of growth.

The Inspiration Gap: Feeling Unmotivated. Winners do what is right and then feel good as a result. Whiners want to feel good before they do what is right. Life involves an inescapable amount of pain, but it’s far better to endure the pain of discipline today than to suffer the pain of regret later.

Redefining Success

Real life situations around me prompted me to make one of my key life decisions: rewriting my definition of success. Instead of acclaim or advancement or achievement, I decided that for me success means having those closest to me love and respect me the most.

If you want to redefine success the way I did, here are some ways to put your decision into practice:

Determine your priorities.
How much of your calendar is devoted to your family and/or close friends? On your budget and to-do list, where do you write in your loved ones? No relationship can survive for long on leftovers.

Decide on your philosophy.
Once your loved ones are a priority, you have to decide together what you want your family to stand for. What values will you live out? For us, the bottom line was to cultivate and maintain:
- Determination to serve God,
- Commitment to God's will
- Diligence in all endeavour
- Continual growth,
- Discipline and
- Contributions to life and lives.

Develop your problem-solving strategy.
In all facets of life, the best plan is to expect problems, stay committed, and develop a strategy for getting through the rough times. Better understanding, Positive change, and Growing relationships are strategies in my opinion.

...Judge Not Yet

It is easy and handy for us to judge a book by its cover. For reason as small as our unwillingness to read.

We should never judge by appearance. How would your life be different if…you stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day…you look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey.

Then you are a just LEADER!

Aside MONEY

It is a general norm that money is the bedrock of any business. When starting any enterprise or business, we all know the value of having plenty of capital (money). But I bet we both know or at least have heard of people who started with no capital who went on to make fortunes. How? you may ask. I believe there are actually some things that are more valuable than capital that can lead to your entrepreneurial success. Let's concisely consider some of them:

1. Time: The time you set aside not to be wasted, not to be given away. Time you set aside to be invested in an enterprise that brings value to the marketplace with the hope of making a profit. Now we have capital time. How valuable is time? Time properly invested is worth a fortune. Time wasted can be devastation. Time invested can perform miracles, so you invest your time.

2. Determination: Determination says I will. I will find someone to buy into my idea before today is over. If it works once, it will work again.

3. Courage: If you've only got $1 and a lot of courage, I'm telling you, you've got a good future ahead of you. Humans can do the most incredible things no matter what happens. Haven't we heard the stories? It's humans. You can't sell humans short.

4. Ambition: “Wow! If I can sell three, I can sell 33. If I can sell 33, I can sell 103.” You can be dazzled by your own dreams of the future.

5. Faith: And you have to believe your service your product. And she then starts to believe in herself. Let your self-esteem starts to soar. These are investments that are unmatched.

Financial independence is sine qua non to good leadership. Be wise.